Understanding Trust And Accountability

Trust

The following quotes and scriptures or intended to be meditated upon. Take your time and in doing so formulating your own understanding of the true meaning of Trusting Others and an Accountability Partner (s) within your own life’s journey. This presentation is all about you taking personal ownership concerning your own convictions in being transparent with another.

(There are no questions and answers for this teaching.)

My prayer is for you to take personal ownership of the people in your life that you will choose to grow in Trust and to be Accountable with.

I wish you success

your brother Mike

Trust is a matter of the heart, 

Attitudes, Motives, Thoughts, Words, Deeds

Desires, Fears

Hungers and Longings

The Seeking of Approval

The Search for Acceptance

The Desire for Affection

The Yearning for Affirmation

The Craving for Recognition

(This is what is Important within our hearts)

Trust can bring healing within your heart

Trust means inpart to feel “Safe,” with

Transparency can create Trust

Accountability is a choice to Trust

With Accountability you have an option as to what degree you

will enter into a Trust relationship with the other person

Accountability can help stop an outward behavior

Can Accountability be effective without some degree of Trust? No!

Trust can be liken to giving someone eyes to look into your deep heart and with that not to reject you.

Accountability is asking someone to walk with you on your journey through life.

Asking them to help you remove burdens, habits or addictions that you desire removed

Issues and character flaws in play in your life that you need help with

that are holding you back from the abundant life Jesus promises you in John 10:10

Accountability only helps “arrest,” any issues you may have, a character flaw or problem.

Accountability can be a starting point for looking into those issues.

starting with a single issue and in trusting that person only with that specific issue

Often accountability is implemented with very little Grace in the equation.

It will be your trust of another brother in Christ that will dictate that healing process.

When addressing any out of control issues in your life, here is the second half of Accountability.

According to 1 John 2:12 -14

…I am writing to you, young men,
    because you have overcome the evil one.

…I write to you, young men,
    because you are strong,
    and the word of God lives in you,
    and you have overcome the evil one.

It is the Rhema word of God with in your heart that will cause you to overcome any negative behavioral issues. The Rhema word of God comes about through prayer asking our Holy Spirit to personally give you scriptures for your life journey that will become your two-edge sword spoken of in Hebrews 4:12

(as an example: on the right side of this website page, close to the bottom, you can view the 20 versus our Holy Spirit has given me personally for my own journey -Titled “Memory Verses.” Again ask our precious Holy Spirit to show you, “your,” double-edge sword that you will use in “overcoming,” throughout your life.)

Mike Caven

Trust in the Lord with all your heart
    and lean not on your own understanding;
 in all your ways submit to him,
    and he will make your paths straight.

Proverbs 3:5-6

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According to Scripture, we are to “Love,” one another. Yet, Trust is the key to our deep heart,

and it is best that we give that key out to a select few.

For a healthy and mature relationship involves both active LOVE and TRUST.

Example: Jesus had 12 disciples, yet it seems he for the most part only entrusted 3.

Peter, James and John.

Mike Caven

“Trust is not something you just give and get, trust is something you earn and deserve.” – 

K. Bromberg

“The best proof of love is trust.” – 

Joyce Brothers

“Trust is built when someone is vulnerable and not taken advantage of.” – 

Bob Vanourek

“Trust takes years to build, seconds to break, and forever to repair.” – 

Unknown

“Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication.  

It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” – 

Stephen Covey

“Trust is the highest form of human motivation. It brings out the very best in people.” – 

Stephen Covey

Love cannot live where there is no trust. 

Edith Hamilton

 “Learning to trust is one of life’s most difficult tasks.” — 

Isaac Watts

“Trustful people are the pure at heart, as they are moved by the zeal of their own trustworthiness.” — 

Criss Jami

 “Wisdom is found only in truth.” — 

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

“If we do not trust one another, we are already defeated.” — 

Alison Croggon

 “I’d rather hear an ugly truth, rather than an obscure lie.” — 

Ana Monnar

“Consistency is the true foundation of trust. 

Either keep your promises or do not make them.” — 

Roy T. Bennett

“Being trustworthy requires: Doing the right thing. And doing things right.” — 

Don Peppers

“Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters 

cannot be trusted with important matters.” — 

Albert Einstein

 “You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough.” — 

Frank Crane

“The easiest way to gain someone’s trust is to deserve it.

This should be pretty easy, assuming you’re just being you and being real.

Minimal effort too.” — 

Ashley Lorenzana

“I wanted to explain that trusting is harder than being trusted.” — 

Simon Van Booy

“Whether it’s friendship or relationship, all bonds are built on trust. Without it, you have nothing.” — 

Unknown

“Trust is the fruit of a relationship in which you know you are loved.” — 

William P. Young

“Trust is built when someone is vulnerable and not taken advantage of.” — 

Bob Vanourek

“Love is supposed to be based on trust, and trust on love,

it’s something rare and beautiful when people can confide in each other without fearing

what the other person will think.” — 

E.A. Bucchianeri

“Without trust, it’s only a matter of time before relationships crumble.” —

Unknown

“To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.” — 

George MacDonald

 “Relationships should be built on trust and truth.” — 

Sophie Kinsella

“In a relationship, trust is more important than love. It will enhance your love.” — 

Unknown

“When an individual trusts another sufficiently to expose the true self —

the deepest fears, the hidden desires —

a powerful intimacy is born.” — 

Sarah Pekkanen

“Trust and faith bring joy to life and help relationships grow to their maximum potential.” — 

Joyce Meyer

“Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship.

It won’t work if you don’t trust each other.” — 

Unknown

“After all, trust is greater than love, and to truly trust another human being is rare.

Love can exist without trust, but trust cannot exist without love.” — 

Sammy Sutton

“Trust.

It is like placing a blade in someone’s hand and

setting the very point to your heart.” — 

Cassandra Clare

“’I trust you’ is better than ‘I love you’ because you may not always trust the person you love

but you can always love the person you trust.” — 

Unknown

“Trust is not an obsession, it’s an extension of love.

When we truly love someone,

we give them your heart to hold in their hands.

And when that love is returned, that very trust is balm to our souls.” — 

Julie Lessman

“Trusting is hard. Knowing who to trust, even harder.” — 

Maria V. Snyder

 “Communication + Trust = A relationship that will last a lifetime.” — 

Unknown

“Love and trust are so powerful. They can literally change the fate of a person.” — 

Tasha Hoggatt

“We’re never so vulnerable than when we trust someone — 

but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy.” — 

Frank Crane

 “Sometimes the people you trust are the ones who will hurt you the most.” — 

Valenciya Lyons

“The next time you mistrust someone, consider this —

does that person feel responsible for you in any way?

If the answer is yes, then go ahead and trust them.

Very likely, they are looking out for your best interest.” — 

Vera Nazarin

“Trust starts with truth and ends with truth.” — 

Santosh Kalwar

It’s so important to reach out to people you trust,

and who can give you honest feedback,

and keep those people close to you.

You don’t want to surround yourself with enablers.” — 

Tim Gunn

 “Don’t trust people who tell you other people’s secrets.” — 

Dan Howell

 “Few delights can equal the mere presence of one whom we trust utterly.” — 

George MacDonald

“Loving someone is giving them the power to break your heart,

but trusting them not to.” — 

Julianna Moore

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Accountability

Again, my prayer is you meditate and ponder these scriptural verses and how they apply to being transparent with a brother in Christ. In properly doing this you will be controlling your destiny as a son of the living God. Therefore, Trusting and being Accountable has the potential of accelerating your journey of sonship, into integrity, into your inheritance, the blessings our Father God has for you.

These blessings can be like and as to a weightlifter, the more you exercise and apply these truths into your life, the more you will be able to handle the weight of these blessings. In other words as it says in

1 John 2:12-14

I write to you, young men,
    because you are strong,
    and the word of God lives in you,
    and you have overcome the evil one.

becoming strong equates being able to receive the inheritance your father God has for you.

Applying your WILL

Accountability is the Exercising/Strengthening of your “WILL,” to say “NO,”

to someout of control in your life

Being Strong means the strengthening of your “WILL,” in addressing any life controling issue.

Its when you apply your “Will,” to control a matter in your life.

When you allow the Holy Spirit to influence your “Will,” with “YOUR,” double -edge sword,

you will become stronger.

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“While we may not be able to control all that happens to us,

we can control what happens inside us.”

Benjamin Franklin

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James 5:16 

Therefore, confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. 

The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.

Proverbs 27:17

 As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.

Hebrews 4:13

Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. 

Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of Him to whom we must give account.

Romans 14:12 

So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God.

Galatians 6:1-2 

Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin,

you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently.

But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted.

Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.

2 Corinthians 5:10 

For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ,

so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body,

whether good or bad.

Hebrews 10:24-25 

And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds,

not giving up meeting together,

as some are in the habit of doing,

but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.

James 4:17 

If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them.

Luke 17:3

So watch yourselves. If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them;

and if they repent, forgive them.

Proverbs 15:22

Plans fail for lack of counsel,

but with many advisers they succeed.

Romans 2:12 

All who sin apart from the law will also perish apart from the law,

and all who sin under the law will be judged by the law.

Hebrews 13:16-17 

And do not forget to do good and to share with others,

for with such sacrifices God is pleased. 

Have confidence in your leaders and submit to their authority,

because they keep watch over you 

as those who must give an account.

Do this so that their work will be a joy, not a burden,

for that would be of no benefit to you.

Ephesians 5:21

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Matthew 12:36-37 

But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment

for every empty word they have spoken.

For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.

Jeremiah 17:10

the Lord search the heart and examine the mind,

to reward each person according to their conduct,

according to what their deeds deserve.

Matthew 5:22

But I can guarantee that whoever is angry with another believer will answer for it in court.

Whoever calls another believer an insulting name will answer for it in the highest court.

Whoever calls another believer a fool will answer for it in hellfire.

17) Ezekiel 33:8 – 

Suppose I say to a wicked person, ‘You wicked person, you will certainly die,’

and you say nothing to warn him to change his ways.

That wicked person will die because of his sin,

and I will hold you responsible for his death.

Matthew 25:19  

After a long time the master of those servants returned and settled accounts with them.

Ephesians 4:25 

So then, get rid of lies.

Speak the truth to each other,

because we are all members of the same body.

Proverbs 12:15 

A stubborn fool considers his own way the right one,

but a person who listens to advice is wise.

Revelation 20:12 

I saw the dead, both important and unimportant people, standing in front of the throne.

Books were opened, including the Book of Life.

The dead were judged on the basis of what they had done, as recorded in the books

Romans 12:1 

Brothers and sisters, in view of all we have just shared about God’s compassion,

I encourage you to offer your bodies as living sacrifices as, dedicated to God and pleasing to him.

This kind of worship is appropriate for you.

1 Timothy 3:6-7 

He must not be a new Christian, or he might become arrogant like the devil and be condemned.

People who are not Christians must speak well of him,

or he might become the victim of disgraceful insults that the devil sets as traps for him.

James 3:1

Brothers and sisters, not many of you should become teachers.

You know that we who teach will be judged more severely.

Psalm 10:13 

Why does the wicked person despise Elohim? (our LORD)

Why does he say to himself,

“Elohim doesn’t care”? (our LORD)

Ezekiel 18:20

The person who sins will die.

A son will not be punished for his father’s sins,

and a father will not be punished for his son’s sins.

The righteousness of the righteous person will be his own,

and the wickedness of the wicked person will be his own.

Romans 3:19

We know that whatever the Scriptures say applies to everyone under their influence,

and no one can say a thing.

The whole world is brought under the judgment of God.

1 Thessalonians 5:11 

Therefore, encourage each other and strengthen one another as you are doing.

Romans 1:20

From the creation of the world, God’s invisible qualities, his eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly observed in what he made. As a result, people have no excuse.

Luke 12:47-48 

The servant who knew what his master wanted but didn’t get ready to do it will receive a hard beating. But the servant who didn’t know what his master wanted and did things for which he deserved punishment will receive a light beating. A lot will be expected from everyone who has been given a lot. More will be demanded from everyone who has been entrusted with a lot.

2 Peter 1:5-9

For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love. For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. But whoever does not have them is nearsighted and blind, forgetting that they have been cleansed from their past sins.

Gaurd your heart, use wisdom concerning whom you choose to be transparent with. If you apply “Trust,” and “Accountability,” in a relationship, if done properly, it can bring you into your inheritance as a maturing son of our Father God.

Blessings and Success

Your Brother, Mike