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The Secret To Slaying Envy The Secret To Slaying Envy & Jealousy

– 7 Revelations for Overcoming Jealousy and Envy

– Battling Jealousy

– Battling Envy



 adjective feeling or showing envy of someone or their achievements and advantages: he grew jealous of her success

• feeling or showing suspicion of someone’s unfaithfulness in a relationship: a jealous boyfriend

•  fiercely protective or vigilant of one’s rights or possessions.

•  (of God) demanding faithfulness and exclusive worship.

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Jealousy is an inner consciousness of one’s own inferiority. It is a mental cancer. –

B. C. Forbes

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The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves.


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– noun (plural envies) a feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else’s possessions, qualities, or luck.

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The spirit of envy can destroy; it can never build.

Margaret Thatcher

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Envy is the art of counting the other fellow’s blessings instead of your own.

Harold Coffin

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Hey guys today I want to talk about what to do when you find yourself

Envious or Jealous of Someone Else

that’s coming up next on the beat

hey everyone my name is Allen Parr thank you all so much for tuning in to the beat

today we are dealing with a very real issue

and that is the fact that what do we do whenever we find ourselves envious and jealous of someone else

you know it’s easy for us to take a look at the size of somebody else’s home

how much money they make

how successful their children are

the relationship – the relationship status

and so today I just want to give you five things

to consider when dealing with these issues of envy and jealousy

and how God can actually use them to grow you into a better person

Number One:

Happiness Lie

is what I’m calling the Happiness Lie

here I want to strongly encourage you to reject the idea

that if I only had – when I see other people having then and only then will I truly be happy

you know this is one of the things that the enemy uses to keep us chasing after everything except God

and so here’s my assignment for you

I want you to read two passages of Scripture the first is Luke 15:11-32

a very common story the Prodigal Son

here is a young man who thought he would be happier outside of his father’s home

only to get out there and to realize he was better off where he was

and then the second passage is actually the book of Ecclesiastes

and this book is all about King Solomon who went on an experiment and he tried to find happiness

in wine, women, wealth, and his work, and he kept coming up empty

finding out that you know what all of these other things are great but he could find true happiness apart

from his relationship with God

Number Two:

Measuring Stick Syndrome

is what I’m calling the Measuring Stick Syndrome

and this is the idea that the enemy would love nothing more than for you and I to spend our entire lives

comparing ourselves and measuring ourselves up against

what we see and think other people have

and what ends up happening is

whenever we are at those critical times in our lives

we are most vulnerable

the enemy will allow something to be said to you

that will discourage you making you think that your life sucks

because you don’t have what somebody else has

and it keeps us in a pattern of compare ourselves and measuring ourselves

up against other people’s success

Number Three:

Mirror Principle

is what I’m calling the Mirror Principle

and this is the idea that God can use our jealousy to reveal certain things

that are going on inside of our hearts

for instance one of the things is that it reveals

the idols in our in our lives

and so if this is something that I’m thinking about constantly

I’m consumed with and my whole entire life is wrapped around pursuing this thing

it can reveal that I am more interested in pursuing this thing than I am in my relationship with God

which means that this desire has become an idol in my life

not only does it reveal the idols in our lives but it also can uncover some pride

that’s going on in our hearts

because often times we want what we see because it makes us feel better about ourselves

and it actually makes us feel better around other people

which is an indication that there is some pride going on in our lives that we need to deal with

Number Four:

Guard Against Ungratefulness

is to Guard Against Ungratefulness in the old testament book of Numbers

the Bible says that the nation of Israel wandered around in the wilderness for forty years

and one of the reasons why that happened was because God was displeased

because of their constant complaining about what they had

if you think about what God had done

God had given them water from a rock (Ex. 17)

He had given a manna from heaven (Ex. 16)

He had done miracles

led them to the Red Sea on dry land (Ex. 14)

the Bible says that as their bodies grew their clothes grew (Dt. 8:4)

but inspite of all of the things that God had done

they were still consumed about what they didn’t have

and they complained about it constantly

and as a result God did not allow them to move into the promised land

into the next season of their lives

and so the same thing can happen to us

whenever we find ourselves ungrateful and complaining about things

actually it can end up serving to hinder us from moving forward into what God has for us

in the future

and finally

Number Five:

Humility Test

is what I’m calling the Humility Test

so there may be some things in your life that God doesn’t have for you

but then there may be some other things that God really desperately wants to do

in and through your life

and the humility test is tough

because if you’re in a relationship with somebody that you are jealous and envious of

I want to encourage you to have the humility to have a conversation with them

and actually confess that you are jealous and envious of them

and what you may find is that at first you may think that may-maybe this is going to make the relationship

awkward but it actually has the other effect

when you open up the lines of communication

actually draws you closer to that person

it can also serve as an opportunity for them to show you

why it is they may be at a certain place in their life and you may not

if you’re willing and humble enough to learn from them

so now instead of bein genvious and jealous of them

God can actually use those negative feelings to propel you

and use it as a goal or motivation for you to get to the place

that you believe God has for you in the future

so guys jealousy and envy is a very real issue

that I want to encourage us to pay very-very close attention to

so that does not destroy us

and really

and destroy our outward relationship

and so I would love to hear your thoughts what has worked well for you

how have you personally dealt with this issue leave them in the comment section below

okay thank you all so much for watching and I’ll see you next time on the deep

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7 Revelations for Overcoming Jealousy and Envy | Mike Moore


Jealousy is the fear of being displaced


Jealousy is feeling threatened by another

feeling threatened by another

it may be another person

it may be another thing

Third Definition:

jealousy is always triggered by a third party

now the third party party can be a person

the third party can be a situation

the third party can be an entity

the third party can be a church


now allow me to give you a definition of envy

Envy is feeling – ill will

feeling what

feeling ill will toward those who possess the thing

that we want

sometimes its their status we want

is this person’s status

sometimes it there success

sometimes it’s evnying their influence/appearance

whenever you have jealous and envy

you’re gonna have selfishness

you gonna have prideful ambition

you’re gonna have impatience


you find with your car

you find with your house

it’s a gift from God

you look out the window – your neighbor got another new car

I mean then they’re gonna call that one that’s how many years ago would they get that car

now all of a sudden your car is not good enough now


a false view of God jealousy

envy people

have a false view of God

and they have a false view of themselves

jealous and envious people are motivated by fear

the rest of the way I’m gonna give you some tips

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this is how you keep jealousy out of you

this is how we keep it out of our church

this is how we we drive out envy and drive out jealousy

you can drive it out of your families

you can drive it out of your work place

you can drive it out of the church

you can drive out your community

Number One

the key is revelation

it’s a revelation

what Number One

He Has No Favorites

that God has no respect of persons

if that revelation God is no respecter of persons – he has no favorites

Acts 10:34-35

Then Peter began to speak:

I now realize how true it is that God does not show favoritism 

 but accepts from every nation

the one who fears him and does what is right.

he has no favorites

Number Two

He’s  El-Shaddai the God that’s more than enough!

you have to have a revelation that there’s plenty

Genesis 17:1

 When Abram was ninety-nine years old, 

the Lord appeared to him and said,

“I am God Almighty; 

walk before me faithfully and be blameless.

He’s  El-Shaddai the God that’s more than enough!

Number Three you need a revelation

That There’s a Place For You

there’s a place for you 1 Corinthians 12:18 says

But in fact God has placed the parts in the body,

everyone of them anybody

every one of them,

just as he wanted them to be.

God has set the members

every one of them in the body as it pleased him

you in there come on say

I’m in their

Fourth revelation

God Love Diversity

that you need is that God love diversity

he likes all kinds of stuff

and see now

when I look at Ministers

I don’t feel no jealous

I like wow that boy dan boy is bad I dare me

did you see how he took that

I’m like what because you know as he mature

you see his diversity

see he’s gracious

different people to do different things

that’s why they’re different races

because God like the person

like black

he wanted everybody be black

so he made some white folk and he won’t everybody be white folks

so he made some Hispanic folks

then he made some red folks and some yellow folks some brown folks

God loves that and that’s why you see

different annointing on singles

differnnt anointings on preachers

different people do it

just different cuz God loves diversity and that’s biblical that’s Romans 12:6

We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us.

If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your faith;

Number Five

God Attitude is to be Inclusive

the you need a revelation of God attitude is to be inclusive

Number Six

Your Uniqueness is a Gift

a revelation that your uniqueness is a gift of humanity

God made you with different fingerprints

different DNA nobody does it like you and your uniqueness is your gift to humanity

here’s the

Final Revelation you need

you need to choose to be inspired rather than intimidated

see normally were you gonna see something going on

if its some you want or something you need

or something you’d like to have

you got a choice now

you can choose to be intimidated


you can choose to be inspired

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Jeanne writes in to ask Pastor John

how do I handle the envy and jealousy that are eating away at me

so envy and jealousy are two distinct topics here on the table

perhaps we can break this into two podcasts and address jealousy next time

so Pastor John start with envy

what would you say to Jean

it’s not wrong to want something that you don’t have

we usually think of Envy that way

I would

I want that something that that person has in fact

we wouldn’t even pray if we didn’t want things we didn’t have

that’s what prayer is in fact

I would say all of life is either

Thanksgiving for what God has given us

or aspiration for something that might be good for us

so the question is what makes Envy evil

what makes the one thing of something evil

Proverbs 24:19

Do not fret because of evildoers
    or be envious of the wicked,

seems like people were looking at those who were prospering in their wrongdoing

they had things and and they were feeling envious of it

or Proverbs 14:30

A heart at peace gives life to the body,
    but envy rots the bones.

or Matthew 27:18

for he knew that it was out of envy

that they had delivered Jesus up

so Envy is a horrible thing

it resulted in the killing of the Son of God

that was a motive behind the destruction of-of Jesus

or Romans 1:29

since they did not approve to have God in their knowledge

God gave them up to a debased mind

they were filled with


samething in 1st Peter 2:1

Therefore, rid yourselves of all malice and all deceit, hypocrisy, envy and slander of every kind.

so clearly this is a good question

that we don’t want to be eaten up by something that crucified the Son of God

and that is all tied up with hypocrisy and deceit and slander and evil

so when I try to get at what the essence of it is

and how to handle it

it seems to me that those texts have some clues in them it seems to be born

Envy seems to be born of a restless heart

that does not find God satisfying so

we were craving and we’re yearning

when we’re taking toward what somebody else has because God Himself is not satisfying our soul

so envy is a wanting something

some gift or some ability

or some looks

some something that somebody else has wit-with one of two feelings

that make it bad either resentment

that they have it and you don’t

and so your heart is irritated not just that you want it

but that they have it and you don’t

and that’s loveless

when we’re

when we’re upset that somebody else has something and we don’t have it

and it makes us irritated and angry

we know that lovelessness has gripped our our soul

or a discontent

now just resentment

that they have it but a discontent and her own soul

that makes us distrustful of God or angry at God

why didn’t you give me that

why did they have it and I don’t

why did you withhold this for me

I know Tony in my in my teenage years the fact that I couldn’t talk in front of a group

came the closest to make me envious

I’d see these people who could

who could speak so easily in front of groups

and I couldn’t

or to this very day the fact that I read so slowly

I have to constantly go back to God and say

Lord I could accomplish so much more I think

if you had just given me the ability to read as fast as Tony Ranky could read

no-don’t start

and it really did you

you really have to revisit these things over and over again and

and lay down lay them down

and say God I trust you

you are good

so I think at bottom the remedy is

not that I am speaking of being in the difficult from

Philippians 4

I have learned and whatever situation I am to be content

I know how to be brought low

I know how to abound in any and every circumstance

I’ve learned the secret of facing plenty

so there you’ve got enough or hunger now you could start feeling envious

they have more I want more

I don’t have enough they have plenty and Paul says there’s

A Secret Of Trust In The Goodness Of God

that enables you to feel contentment in

in all that you have

so I think the key is trust him

with what he has given us

and only ask for things that would honor him more

and then be content with what-what God gives us

alright thank you Pastor John

and thank you for listening to this podcast

email your questions to us at ask PastorJohn a desiring God org

and you can visit us online

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I’m hostTony Reinke thanks for listeningyou

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Last time Jeanne had written in to ask Pastor John

how do I handle the Envy and Jealousy

that are eating away at me and in last podcast an episode 151

you address the Envy side and he wanted to address them individually

so now Pastor John addressed the Jealousy category


I wanted to break Jealousy and Envy up because –

Jealousy – it I think is significantly different

Jealousy is an Anger

because someone else is getting affections

that I believe belong to me

and that’s not always wrong


it’s not wrong to be angry at a wife or a husband who are giving their marital affections to another

when they’re married to you

we know it’s not wrong

because God is called a Jealous God in Exodus 20

you shall have no other gods before me

you shall not bow down to them or

serve them for I the Lord your God am a Jealous God

in other words your allegiance

your love

your worship belongs to me

don’t give it to anybody else

if you give it to somebody else I get angry

because I’m a Jealous God

I want all of your love

all of your worship

your Allegiance

your affections for me

and that’s a beautiful thing of God to do

because He is infinitely worthy of those Allegiance and affections

and therefore it is a loving thing of God to be a Jealous God

and and for us

we want to find a way to distinguish between sinful jealousy and loving jealousy

so what’s what’s the difference

what’s the sin of jealousy that that this person who asked this question evidently is feeling eaten up by

the first thing that’s a

I could think of three things that make a desire for someone’s affection sinful


is when there’s no ground for feeling jealousy

in other words they really aren’t giving their affections away in any in ordinate or inappropriate way

and you shouldn’t be feeling the craving for their unique affections the way you are

I think

I’ve seen mothers for example jealous of their sons affections when they find a girl

and on that

start falling over the girl and mom used to be so central in this little boys affections

and now there’s this girl

who’s come into his life and this mother doesn’t have the maturity to let go

those affections that have to be now given mainly to this woman rather than

to hurt that that would be a sinful jealousy

if if this mother was angry at this son

because she shouldn’t be angry because those affections that he is giving to this young woman are not

the mothers they don’t belong to her she should let them go

she should be thankful that they’re happening that’s the first one

The Second One

is when the anger is all out of proportion to the degree of the issue a husband might-might

spend some time reading or watching television or going bowling with his friends and-and

this wife might not have the security to feel okay about her husband doing some other things

besides focusing all of his attention on-on her

and so that would be a sinful jealousy

as if she got all excessively bent out of shape

it’s okay for her to you know

talk to him about his schedule

and try to work out whatever seems appropriate

but there are kinds of jealousy that are out of proportion to the degree of the offense

if it is an offense at all and-and

The Third One

I could think of the third thing that makes jealousy sin

would be when it’s flowing from a lack of trust in God to meet your needs

to intervene where it’s needed

in other words you see something happening

where in fact maybe there is a real breach of trust and you’re legitimately feeling jealous

but that jealousy which begins as something right

can-can move over into something wrong

when in fact you don’t trust God with it

so the real battle I think has to be fought at the level of trusting God

James- James 3

if you have bitter jealousy in your hearts

don’t boast and be false to the truth

this-this is not the wisdom that comes down from above

in other words James is saying your jealousy is owing to the fact that you’re not

you’re not getting this from heaven

this is not of the Holy Spirit

this is not born of faith

this is coming from something deemed demon likened

and ugly so we need to kill

I would say kill sinful jealousy with Godly jealousy

Godly jealousy says I am jealous that God get all my affections of love and trust

and not be given away to anybody else and if God has them then my heart will be steadied

and I will not crave the attention that I’m sinfully craving in my jealousy of others

so I think really at them

at the root being eaten up with a sinful jealousy

is probably owing to a failure to be jealous enough for God getting all my affections

and all my trust

and all my allegiance

so that I can be stable and strong and restful in him


thank you

Pastor John and thank you for listening to this podcast

emai-lyour questions to us at ask Pastor John

at desiring God org

you can visit us online at desiring God at org

to find thousands of free ebooks articles sermons and other resources from John Piper

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Anger is cruel and fury overwhelming,
    but who can stand before jealousy?

Proverbs 27:4

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The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; 

idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord,


fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions  and envy;

drunkenness, orgies, and the like. 

I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this

will not inherit the kingdom of God.

But the fruit of the Spirit is

love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness,

faithfulness,  gentleness and self-control. 

Against such things there is no law.

Galatians 5:19-23

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Good kind of Jealousy

I am jealous for you with a godly jealousy.

I promised you to one husband, to Christ,

so that I might present you as a pure virgin to him.

2 Corinthians 11:2

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You are still worldly.

For since there is jealousy and quarreling among you,

are you not worldly?

Are you not acting like mere humans?

1 Corinthians 3:3

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