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The bible does not say anything about “Soul Ties,” in a direct way

but there are principles we can see that help us realize how our souls are affected by others.

Mark Ballenger 

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“When you have sexual relations with someone, there always is an “Emotional Bonding” (Soul Tie,) that generates because two fleshes become one (Genesis 2:24– positive) (1 Corinthians 6:16 – negative.)

Sexual relations within a marriage covenant* generate a healthy emotional bondings while sexual relations outside of a marriage covenant create unhealthy emotional bonding.”

* Marriage Covenant, between one biological Man and one biological female, according to Scripture.


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Transcript of this Youtube Video (13:58 in length)

The phrase soul tie is not a term that is expressly defined in the bible, because of this many people will attach different meanings to this term. So before we begin I need to talk about what i’m personally describing when I use the phrase “Soul Tie.” To make this even harder when you study the scriptures there is actually a debate on what the term “Soul,” actually means, as well. So in fear of making this video way too long and too complicated let me give you a brief definition by Drwayne Grudem; that I also agree with.

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Soul and Spirit are both general terms to describe the immaterial side of people and it’s difficult to see any real distinction between their use in scripture there is a continual interaction between our body and our spirit and they affect each other. As Proverbs 17:22 states:

A cheerful heart is good medicine,

but a downcast spirit dries up the bones.

Therefore, when I use the term soul I’m referring to those parts of you that go beyond your physical body but which are still very much a part of what makes you who you are; your emotions, your thinking processes, your will that makes choices, and so on. Thus when I use the phrase “Soul Tie,” I’m referring to those things on this earth that you are attached to and that have power over the immaterial parts of you. What I’m not referring to when I use the term “Soul Tie,”

is an actual mingling of two human spirits where they are literally now some new entity.

I’m not referring to anything that would resemble another person’s spirit somehow possessing your body and controlling you, kind of like – demon possession.

Again that is not what I think a “Soul Tie,” is.

I also don’t believe that you can literally give pieces of yourself away to someone in a type of metaphysical transaction. This idea is often expressed by Christians when it comes to sex. While I do believe unhealthy attachments are formed through sexual sin, I don’t believe you are literally losing pieces of yourself like if you lost a finger or a hand or an arm.

I also believe that there can be negative and positive soul ties.

So for example if you get depressed when you think about your ex

This would be a sign of a soul tie because this person is negatively affecting your emotions, or on the other hand if someone is married and they start thinking about their spouse and they have good emotions. That would be a sign of a positive “Soul Tie.” One example of this that can be seen in scripture is the relationship between Jonathan and David while this is obviously a friendship and not a romantic relationship, the principle certainly applies First Samuel 18 verse 1 states:

...as soon as he had finished speaking to Saul

the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David

and Jonathan loved him as his own soul

Jonathan’s emotions, mind, and internal will that make choices were now attached to David in a healthy way, where he deeply cared for him. Thus David affected Jonathan’s Spirit through what we are now labeling as a “Soul Tie.”

To summarize:

The bible does not say anything about “Soul Ties,” in a direct way

but there are principles we can see that help us realize how our souls are affected by others.

So here’s my definition of a “Soul Tie:

A soul tie is a relational attachment to someone else that affects the immaterial parts of you.

With all that said here are five signs the Lord is preparing you to break a “negative soul tie.”

Number One:

– If you finally actually want this soul tie to be broken –

So you can move on from this person in your past.

This is a good sign the Lordis preparing you for this process. You will not break a soul tie, if you still wish you could be in a relationship with that person. When you desire to still be with that person, your thinking, feelings, and decision-making processes will still be affected by this person. You won’t interact freely with the opposite sex, if you still want to be with someone in your past. Another variation of this idea is that you are still in the grieving and healing process and just not ready to move forward into a new relationship because you are still hurting from this past relationship. If you are not ready to move on take your time, it’s normal for the moving on process to not happen instantly. But eventually if you truly want to break this soul tie, you have to be willing to let go of everything that is still connecting you to this person in your past. You have to let go of the hope of getting back together. You have to let go of wanting to experience once more the good times you had together. And you have to let go of the bitterness and hurt you still feel towards that person. Anything from that past relationship that still affects the immaterial parts of you, means you still have a soul tie.

It is possible to break this connection, notice what Paul said in 2 Corinthians 6:14:

Do not be unequally yoked with an unbelievers…

Paul said this to people who had been previously yoked to unbelievers. So this clearly means you can break the former yokes you had. So you are no longer connected to people you once were connected to but to truly break this old connection it all starts with wanting to break it. So if you truly want to make a clean break, this is a good sign. The Lord is preparing you to do so.

Number Two:

If God is teaching you how to reject intrusive thoughts about this person –

This is a good sign He’s preparing you to break this soul tie.

The mind is a big part of the soul, therefore, we must break free in our thought life. If we hope to break free from soul ties connecting us to people in our past. When a soul tie is present you will find yourself thinking about this person throughout the day for no reason. It’s not a soul tie if you start thinking about someone if one of your friends mentions their name or you see a picture of them. It’s natural for our minds to start thinking about things in our past when there was something in real life that triggered those memories. But when a deep soul tie is present, you’ll start thinking about this person from the moment you wake up to the moment that you go to bed. It’ll look like you’re present with the rest of us but internally you’ll be somewhere else off in your mind thinking about this person. This can’t stop God has given you power over your mind. You don’t need to let your mind control you, it’s not easy to gain control and stop intrusive thoughts but it certainly is possible through the spirit’s power and through being disciplined as Paul said in: 2 Corinthians 10:5.

We take every thought captive to make it obedient to Christ...

(for more on this topic you may want to watch my video called; “How to stop thinking about someone.” you can watch this video next by clicking the card in the right corner of your screen.)

Number Three:

If God is exposing lies you believed about yourself which you learned through this past relationship –

This is a good sign He’s preparing you to break the soul tie

One reason past relationship experiences can continue to control you is because out of those experiences you formed beliefs about yourself. For example, if a girlfriend in your past brokeup with you even though you really wanted to stay with her, you could have formed the false belief of:

there’s something about me that women don’t like

– I’ll never get married because all women hate me –

Or if you dated a verbally abusive man for a while you could have formed the false belief

-I’m such a head case only crazy guys would like me

-I’m damaged goods

-So who will want me except those guys who treat me poorly

The devil and the world are always trying to speak lies over us, but those lies have no power unless we believe them. To be true, if you’ve been believing lies about yourself, you have to let the Holy Spirit expose those lies – with the truth and the light found in the Word of God. Read the biblestudy what the scriptures say about your true identity in Christ. It’s time to break those lies by only believing the truth found in the bible as Hebrews 4:12 proclaims

for the word of god is living and active sharper than any two-edged sword

piercing to the division of soul and of spirit of joints and of marrow and

discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.

Number Four:

If God is teaching you how to make choices that are best for you regardless of what effect they have on this other person in your past

This is a good sign the Lord is preparing you to break this soul tie.

When your mind, emotions, and will is still attached to someone in your past this will cause you to still consider this person in your past when you make choices in your life. For example: You could think I’m not going to go on a date with this guy from church who asked me out because I don’t want my “ex,” to think I’ve moved on. I want to still be available if he changes his mind. I’m going to start online dating and hook up with as many women as I can just to hurt my “ex.” We just broke up so I want to show her I’m moving on really fast so I can hurt her like she hurt me. I’m going to live single forever, I want to be married but the pain from this past relationship is just so bad I don’t ever want to experience this again, it’s just not worth. Its when you make unhealthy choices because of something negative that happened to you in the past, this is a sign of soul tie is present, but if the Lord is teaching you to make the choices that are best for you, rather than what is best for this other person. The choices that are about glorifying God, this is a sign you are living free as Romans 6:14 states:

For sin will have no dominion over you

since you are not under law but under grace.

Number Five:

If God is taking away your desire to be with this person in the past and giving you a new desire to be with someone else –

This is a good sign the Lord is breaking this soul tie.

Many people worry about getting into a new relationship because they fear they still have a soul tie with someone from their past. This is a valid concern. If you truly still have feelings for this person in your past and want to be with him or her, but if you have moved on in your emotions and desires no longer wanting a relationship with this person and this past relationship no longer controls how you think, feel, and make choices, now this means the soul tie is broken. If you want to be in a new relationship and this past relationship is no longer affecting you. You don’t need to worry about still being tied or connected to someone in your past, it’s not happening there is no biblical evidence that there is some sort of metaphysical transaction between two people where you can be missing parts of you because this other person still possesses them. Your soul is yours and it belongs to God, no one can possess the literal you, your emotional attachment to them can affect how you live and feel but no one has the actual power to take literal pieces of your immaterial self notice what God said in Ezekiel 18:4

Behold all souls are mine, the soul of the father as well as thes oul of the son is mine.

The soul who sins shall die

There are not pieces of your literal soul possessed by your ex. God owns your literal soul. Yes, you can be emotionally attached but the other person does not possess you like I possess a dollar bill in my pocket. The term

the soul who sins shall die

means God holds each individual person responsible for the choices they make for themselves because no one literally has the power to control our souls but us. So you are free to move on without worrying about some spiritual connection to someone in your past. Although many pastors and Christians talk this way. That is not a biblical idea. It’s unhelpful, unhealthy, unbiblical and is simply a man-made idea that gives people too much power. God owns you, None of us can literally possess any spiritual parts of other people.

Therefore, if you want to move on into a new relationship, do so freely with no worries about a soul tie still controlling you. If your mind, emotions, will, and all the other immaterial parts of you are relationally unattached to this person in your past, the soul tie is broken and it’s time to live like it. God doesn’t want you looking back, fearing that someone, somehow owns pieces of you that you can’t get back. That’s worldly thinking and not biblical thinking. Enjoy your freedom in Christ and move on in the peace of knowing that you are God’s child through Jesus.

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Transcript of this Youtube Video (10:30 in length)

Soul Ties

What Are They?

How Are They Formed?

How Do I Recognize If I Have A Tie With Someone?


Most Importantly –

How Do I Break That Tie?

A soul tie is a massively deep spiritual connection between two people. It’s a tie that’s powerful enough to have deep and often bad effects if it’s never broken. The reason for this is because as the name suggests you’re intertwined to another person. You’re entangled at a deeper level than just the physical. You see, a soul tie is a strong link that can be formed after two people have been intimate physically, spiritually or emotionally. You are not invincible to soul ties, no matter how much you may believe that to be the case. Each of us can so easily form ties with people without even realizing it. So be watchful of your own spirit and the effects that another person may be having on you or you on them.

Always be alert on the tell tale symptoms of a soul tie.

I believe that there are three major signs that indicate if you have formed a soul tie with someone.

The First Being – that when you form a soul tie – you’ll find that your thoughts are consumed by this person. You’re literally drowning in your mind with thoughts of this person. A person who maybe out of sight – but right at the top of your head, no matter what, you’re internally centered on them with your mental and spiritual being, as if they’re your entire world. This person somehow has power over your thought life to the point that it feels like they are controlling you whether they are trying to or not.

The Second Sign – you have a soul tie is that you make all of your decisions based on that person watching you. For example have you ever found yourself going to certain places just to be seen by a specific person? Have you ever found yourself posting certain kinds of pictures frequently to social media just to get recognition from this person? This is a dangerous place to be because you’ve gone from being consumed in your mind by this person to now taking certain deliberate actions so that you can be seen or so that you can get their attention and you need to be asking the question?

Do I hold this person’s approval in higher regard than God’s approval?

This mental state is not healthy for you as you strive to maintain a relationship with God.

and this brings me to the third sign.

The Third Sign – that you have a soul tie can be identified when you find your self struggling immensely in your spiritual life on account of this person. You’re struggling to pray, you’re struggling to read or listen to the word, and you’re finding yourself feeling disconnected from the things of God. The importance you have placed on this person surpasses and maybe even replaces every other area of importance in your life you have essentially made them your idol. This person has now taken God’s place as the object of your soul’s affection. There’s a song by a christian artist that says

anything I put before my God is an idol

anything I want with all my heart is an idol

anything I can’t stop thinking of is an idol


anything that I give all my love is an idol.

When this happens the soul tie has been given unhealthy access to your spirit, it’s set up shop there and has been made into an idol. This is recognizable because the chief characteristic of your life is now “fear.” With your life centered on the idol in the form of a soul tie you become dependent on that person in every way, in ways that God wants you to be dependent only on him. If the bond is threatened in anyway, your response is panic. You genuinely believe that there is no hope apart from the person that losing this bond is the end. If this kind of behavior has consumed you, you need to evaluate your spiritual state and take special care to bring your attention and affection back to God. Make room for Him to break this powerful connection and replace it with a life-giving connection to Him.

Now I’ve talked about the three signs that indicate that you have a soul tie.

You’re consumed in your thoughts.

Yourdecision-making and in

Your Spiritual Life.

while these signs may be prevalent in your life right now, this bond is far from unbreakable through the power of the Holy Spirit.

So I want you to know that you have a Father who wants to restore you to spiritual health. You have a Father who is knocking at the door to move on your behalf.

You have a Father who saw you before this time was created and who sees you in all of your beauty after your healing.

Do not be discouraged. Do not feel hopeless. We’re at the good part.

How to break a soul tie.

Your spiritual life can be greatly threatened by a deep spiritual bond that did not come from God but the wonderful thing is that god isin the business of healing, He specializes in restoration and forgiveness. He can make you whole again, and he can most certainly mend any broken hearts. So I want to speak to someone whose life has been shaken up by a deep connection to something orsomeone other than God. It’s not the end of the world. The Lord has given us resources and the necessary tools to move forward, so do just that. If you’ve identified that you have a soul tie, then do something about it. As spoken by one of my favorite pastors, “it’s okay to not be okay,” but it’s not okay to stay that way.” There’s action to be taken on your part to break free from a soul tie.

You have to go to God with a repentant heart.

You have to go to God with a willing heart.

Acknowledge that your flesh is weak and that you need Him to deliver you from this spiritual stronghold.

The Holy Spirit will move in you to push out what does not belong, but he can only do so if this is your heart’s desire and if you seek the Lord with all of your heart to be set free. So you may have a struggle, it will most certainly will be a fight, but even through your setbacks I encourageyou to pray. Don’t just stop at praying, but fast and pray. You really have to put some effort in, when it comes to breaking soul ties

Another aspect to breaking a soul tie is repent and accept the forgiveness that God gives.

Stop feeling condemned.

Stop feeling like you’re being shamed for your mistakes.

That’s what the devil wants but you should instead continue to persevere in daily supplication and thanksgiving.

Acknowledge you’ve made a mistake tell God about it, repent, but don’t wallow in shame. Don’t let it eat you up inside when God is offering forgiveness and freedom.

A soul tie is too powerful for you to break on your own, you need the power of our Lord Jesus Christ and when you are faced with temptation to keep this bond or fall back into it, God’s word’s a powerful source of comfort. Paul instructs us specifically in First Corinthians 10:13; that God will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation He will also provide the way of escape. However deeply your heart has been consumed outside of Him, God is willing to deliver you if you will earnestly seek His face. You are delivered as you seek him and pray for strength if your heart is pure in asking, the Lord will direct your path so that your actions will begin to fall into obedience to his will. Do what He says, God is still waiting for you with open arms saying “come home,


perseverance and the fortitude

given to you by the Holy Spirit will lead you to consistently tell the devil – no!

Consistently resisting the devil and the urge to go back to old ways is something you can only do when empowered by the Holy Spirit. Scripture says; “resist the devil and he will flee from you,” he is the driving force behind a soul tie but he is no match for your all-powerful Father. God will honor your prayers and provide you with the way of escape from your spiritual stronghold,

your idol

your soul tie

no matter how weak you may feel, you are delivered through the process of consistently seeking God with your whole heart. You are delivered as you acknowledge Him in all your ways. Your deliverance will accompany your perseverance and consistency. You have all the tools to tell the devil – no! Use them! Break the tie! God is saying to you today; “come home and be free.”

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